Me, Myself, and I
Journey Toward our mind
A few recent, rather drastic changes in my life have left me contemplating myself than ever before. It started with le Covid which basically changed everyone’s life, then our company started Full WFH mode, which for an introvert like me kinda sounded like heaven on earth. And at the end of last year, I became someone’s wife, a whole entire unfamiliar role I signed up for willingly, a new and strange chapter for me to dive into.
Each of those changes triggers my long, exhausting battle with overthinking, questioning everything in life, wanting to do something, everything, all at the same time. And I became aware that THIS ALL was not healthy nor sustainable for me to do. And something needs to change, and Stat!
So I found these things that helped me a lot through my contemplation and journey through a better sense of self, and I hope these can help you as well :
Remember why you do the things you do
You work hard in your career because you want a better life for your kids, you finish your education, aced your tests so you can get a good job and build a home for your parent, or run 10K a day to prepare for a half-marathon. Always go back to the reason you’re doing this in the first place. Every time you feel down or lost, remember the things that keep you going.
You are not alone
We have our teams for a reason. So we’re not burdened and buried by our tasks and projects alone. Brainstorm, have an idea library, talk, listen. A great team will always have your back.
Set your personal boundaries
Especially when WFH, it’s getting harder to know when to stop and take a break. So you need to set your own boundaries and make the effort to really obey them yourself. The sooner you start and the longer you practice this, the easier it would feel to really give yourself a break you deserve.
Be kind to yourself
For me personally, this is the most important but the hardest thing I’m trying to practice. I said the most important because when you are saying and thinking good, positive things to yourself, it sets the tone for the other points above to come to you.
“But how?” you ask, well I read a good rule of thumb of being kind with your mind is: treat your thoughts as your child, if you are saying and doing things to yourself you would not say nor do to your child, Stop. Retreat. Reset. Restart.
“You’re smart, kind, thoughtful, beautiful, you make this world better” That’s what I would say to a child.
